I’m trying to find invitations for the wedding and I’d like to enlist your aid.  What is your opinion on these invites?

I’ve looked all over the internet and these are what I feel are the nicest for the cheapest.  My colors are red and gold and the only color these come in is brown (according to the reviews the picture is way darker than the actual product).  Basically what I want to know is- Is it okay for me to not use my color scheme in my invites?

In other news, I have my officient and he is AWESOME!!  As soon as we started talking I knew that he was the right man for the job.  In one ten minute conversation he has completely changed my feelings for the wedding.  I was sort of dreading it, all of the work that goes into it and all of the money, and the problems we are having with Jeff’s family.  But talking to Reverand Howard Grimes, I cannot WAIT to stand up there with Jeff and officially become his wife.  Reverand Grimes voice is AMAZING.  Vaguely reminiscent of Dr. Fallin for those of you that have heard him speak.

Also… I have a new hobby.  I’m painting D&D miniatures for a game that I’m going to be in.  When I have all of them finished I’ll take pictures and post them.  They look pretty awesome, if I may say so myself.

Since I’ve got a new laptop /i also have my own stumbleupon toolbar.  As opposed to using Jeff’s.  For a quick explanation for those of you that might not know, Stumbleupon is a service/tool that sends you to a random website tagged with descriptors that you marked as an interest.  For mine I’ve marked photography, feminism, religion, games, jokes, etc.  Well a lot of the feminist websites have been coming up lately and I’ve read some very interesting articles.

All of this reading has lead me to ponder what it is to be feminist and feminine.  What makes a woman?  What makes her a feminist?  Does wanting women to rise up and crush the men make a woman feminist or sexist?  Does a woman using the fact that she has boobs to benefit her make her a betrayer to the feminist cause or a realist?  Is liking typically girly things make you less of a feminist?

Jeff and I were at Sears Wedding Registrying and I was trying to coordinate the bathroom so that our colors all went well together.  I happened to really like a flower design that they had for shower curtain hooks and when I pointed them out to Jeff he made a disgusted face and said [paraphrased] “What happened to you?  You’re supposed to be one of the guys!”  This is true, I enjoy violent movies, comic books, and other typically male hobbies.  But I am a girl, and guess what… I like flowers, I’ve read a couple of romance novels, I LOVE Chick-lit, and pink isn’t as foul a color as it used to be.  Does that make me less of a feminist?  I still feel that women are equal to men in most respects.  I see no reason why I should get paid less to do the same job as Jeff if I can do it just as well.  Sexist jokes are occasionally funny, but when taken to far I do find them insulting.  Because I’m a feminist does that make Jeff automatically whipped?  Can he be manly and me be feminist at the same time?  Is Angelina Jolie less of a feminist because she capitalizes on her looks to get ahead in a highly sexist, ageist business?  I was just reading one article where two blogger got into it, and one blogger accused the other (who’s whole website was geared as being a feminist blog) of not being a TRUE feminist because she used a highly sexualized silouette of a woman as a graphic on her website.  And the whole reason the arguement started was because the feminist blogger was cute, has big boobs and dressed nicely when she met with former President Clinton.  In a photo taken of the whole group of bloggers that met with Clinton, she’s standing next to him, wearing a sweater that DOESN’T had her boobs smiling prettily.  And the other blogger and her readers BLASTED her for it.  Saying she was condoning sexism, that she’s obviously not a real feminist.  Why?  Because she dressed nice?  Because heaven forbid she didn’t where a shapless sweater blazer combo, because she was smiling in the presence of a man who has a history of sexual harrasment, because she was standing next to him period?  What bothers me is not only the fact that this one blogger took offense to that, but also that she led her whole readership into knocking this woman and her character because she dressed nicely.  And then when called on it defended herself by saying that she using breasts on her website.  NEWS FLASH: WOMEN HAVE BREASTS.  Even women who’ve had mastectomy had breasts at one point.  It’s one of those things about being a female.  They serve as a way fo feeding our young, and second the serve as a way to attract mates to make young.  From the beginning that’s what they were for.  Men like breasts, any man who doesn’t like breasts is GAY.  Even when men become women, one of the first things they do is get breasts.  I have breasts, and I happen to like when they look good in a shirt, if a shirt causes unibreast, or hangs in a way that just makes me look fat I don’t wear it that often (I do occasionally wear them because hey I’m a young twentysomething that doesn’t like to do laundry.  Sometimes you wear the ugly shirts because they are the only one clean).  By one bloggers definition that makes me less of a feminist.  Why?  Because I don’t want to be ugly?

Argh, just reading those made me angry.  The same kind of angry I get from reading atheists bashing Christians just because they choose to believe in something.  Here’s a hint internet atheists, this doesn’t make you better than them, it just makes you an asshole.  All religions, all genders, all skin colors should be equal.  Are they?  No.  Because the human race is a bunch of prejudiced jerk faces that moves from one prejudice to another whenever society tells them that they are wrong.  Oh so black people aren’t stupid a lesser beings, then poor black people are, the rich ones aren’t.  Oh, poor black people aren’t ignorent gangbangers?  Then lets hate the Mexicans!  Yeah, we hate mexicans!  Oh our entire economy is based of mexicans who are willing to do the jobs we don’t want because they are beneath us for cheaper?  Then I think we’ll hate Muslims… and on and on the cycle goes.  It’s so frustrating!

That last post was mostly me being really negative.  Jeff said it wouldl be taken care of, and he’s taking care of it.  Idiot says that he will pay for it.  Forgive me for being doubtful.  Anyway, everythings going good except the spicy chicken I ate for dinner just compedlled me up and out of bed.  I think thiings have calmed down and I can sleep now.

Jeff and I had a great day yesterday.  We spent the morning playing computer games, in the afternoon we had some friends come over, then in the evening we went and saw Julie & Julia.  Every guy we ran into at the theater gave Jeff a sympathetic look, made cracks about his manhood, and in general tried to help reconcile himself to a terribly girly movie.  It was actually a great movie.  Even Jeff enjoyed it.  There was only one problem.  Jeff and i spent the whole day snacking; day old pizza for breakfast, whatever was in the refridgerator for lunch.  So watching a movie where they do nothing but cook delicious foods was torture.  Rather than going to see another movie as per our original plan we opted to rush to publix and get supplies.  We game hom and at 10 oclock at night we made Red Pepper Crab soup in a bread bowl.  It’s not the difficult and you can get all of the ingredients at Publix.  Here’s what you need:

1 box V8 Red Pepper soup

1/4 cup Crab meat (make sure it suitably lumped)

1 White Mountain Bread Loaf, uncut (really you could use any type of bread so long as it was round and uncut)

Preheat the oven to 325, meanwhile cut the top off of your bread, pull out the insides.  Pull out however much you feel necessary to contain your soup.  Brush the inside of your bread with olive oil.  I used plain ol’ olive oil though I am wishing I’d taken some time to put some seasoning in it but anyway.  Once the oven is heated put your bread it.  Then open your box of soup, pour it into a pot, add your crab meat and heat it up.  Once its boiling hot, your bread is probably done.  It took about ten minutes in our oven.  Our bread didn’t look browner than when we put in, it was just much firmer.  Then we got to eat it.  It was delicious.

Okay, now I have to go get ready for work.